Do we owe anybody for how they perceive us?

In this life we all have strengths. There are so many things that we celebrate about ourselves. We have traits that we cherish so much we are so quick to catwalk them on the runway of social endeavour. These things could be talents, physical features or any kind of unique unsurpassed ability. They represent the gold nuggets of our limelight. We are celebrated because of these God-given pluses which are so unique to our existence. For some of us we earn our money through them, for others we gain the appeal of the masses and become role models. Corporations capitalise on these special traits and make us brand icons. Politicians attempt to win elections with these special gifts of ours. We become demigods to many a people. To say the least, the benefits we derive from these special traits are insurmountable.

These notwithstanding, we also have complimentary skeletons that urge our id over our super egos. Sometimes we love them in the present state but hate them in the state of introspection. Sometimes we enjoy these skeletons when nobody is watching but pinch ourselves when the torchlight of reflection is set on our darkness. Other times we just can’t resist the turn-on of the temptation and succumb to the relish of the end-joy. We all have skeletons irrespective of our creed, career, temperament, belief, education you name it. Our skeletons are sometimes mono-dimensional, that is it involves just us. Whatever benefit or harm thereof accrue to only us. For example i might have a scar on a part of my body that might let you change your perception about me or your value for me when you set your eyes on it. Also I might be masturbating, sniffing coke, smoking weed etc. Our skeletons are also sometimes poly-dimensional; we cannot engage them without the involvement of others. An example could be cheating on your wife.

These skeletons might sometimes not be bad in the context of self, belief and environment; however they are laden on our conscience and are able to undo us because of our location on the radar of public perception. We are looked up to by a lot of people because of our strengths and abilities and not because of our vice and skeletons. We are brand icons, social figures and celebrities because of the shares we own on the burse of public mindset. Simply, our lives have incredible impact on so many people. Fundamentally, our so called skeletons are skeletons because they have the tendency to tilt our successes towards failure. We mostly want to keep them out of public display because they contradict public opinion about us.

Do we owe anybody for how they perceive us? Part two coming soon.